If you are abusive
Domestic violence is a learned behavior, not a sickness. If you are engaging in any form of emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse against your partner or family, it does not mean that you are a bad person, but it does mean that you must stop your abusive behavior.
You may feel a lot of anger and tension. However, you can learn to deal with that anger and tension, without resorting to physical, emotional, or sexual violence. Acknowledging your actions is the first step.
This site provides resources by which to live abuse free.
Colorado Certified Perpetrator Treatment Providers
What is Domestic Violence?
The Cycle of Violence